Trying to Understand Male and Female Comunication Differences

One day after my wife returned from our son’s baseball game she asked if I liked her new hair style. I noticed it was considerably shorter and new she had scheduled the hair appointment for early that morning. I immediately new something was up because she usually waited to see if I would notice on my own. My shields were up and I quickly told her that I loved it and asked if she was happy with it. She said that she liked it, but two of our male friends she had seen at the baseball game didn’t. I asked how she had come to that conclusion and she explained that as she and one of the friends walked past each other he looked at her hair and said “you got a hair cut” and walked on by saying nothing else. As the next friend was walking by, he said “I like your new hair cut" " It looks really good on you" and off he went. As the third friend strolled by, he glanced up and said “you got a hair cut” then continued on his way. I said. That’s it? How do you know they didn’t like it? She explained that if the two friends had actually liked it, they would have said more and that “you got a hair cut” actually meant “Oooo you got your hair cut and its short and I prefer long hair on women”. She was miffed that the two could possibly think that their opinion mattered to her. Men! I explained that guys don’t speak in the female hidden meaning code. It’s way to confusing for us and the fact that they even noticed was an incredible event in it self. The friend who said he liked it was just a better trained husband and she should pay a compliment to his trainer. Men and women really do communicate completely different and it’s so confusing. If a girl with what she perceives is a big nose, goes to meet a group of girlfriends at a Starbucks and upon entering, one of her soon to be hated ex-friends yells from across the room "what’s up beak face" while giggles break out then immediately after, the same girl yells " I’m just kidding girl! Now get over here and join the party" "have you lost weight?" The girl with what she perceives is a big nose would be devastated, embarrassed and would never speak to her or any of the gigglers again. She would probably need therapy and may even require a nose job to alleviate her already debilitating insecurity over her perceived big nose. Now if you look at the same scenario but involving guys. When the guy who probably really has a giant nose, hears “what’s up beak face” he immediately feels acceptance, love and brotherhood and he returns the gesture with something like “not much pizza face” to a guy who would actually have bad acne in order to warrant the "pizza face” comment. The result would be a mutual feeling of acceptance and brotherhood. All would be well and friendships would flourish. Why the differences?